Another key aspect of building friendships is using good manners at parties and in other social situations. Some children don’t know how to act properly at a birthday party or other social gathering, but they can be taught. Make a list of party-manners, discuss each one, then put them into practice. Discuss poor manners and problems openly and clearly. Talk about examples of poor manners, good alternatives, and “party rules”:
- How and When to RSVP.
- Arrive on time.
- Greet parents when you arrive.
- Act Pleasant and Agreeable.
- Participate in whatever is planned.
- Offer to help when it is needed.
- Compliment your host.
- Don’t interrupt or contradict other guests even though you think you know better than they.
- Respect personal property.
- Thank parents when leaving.
- Thank your host as you leave.
As suggested before, these manners can be practiced at home before the big event.
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